Family photos are some of the most cherished memories you can capture, but anyone who's tried taking them knows that kids don't always get the memo. Between early bedtimes, meltdowns, and short attention spans, a family session can feel stressful - for parents and kids. The good news? With a little preparation, your session can be fun, relaxed and full of authentic connection. Here's how to set your kids up for success:
Talk About the Session Ahead of Time
Kids respond best when they know what's coming. Take a few minutes before the session to explain that you'll be taking photos together, moving around, and having fun. Try to keep it simple and fun.
Comfort is Key
Most of the time, photographers prioritize lighting. And understandably so! However, a well-rested, well-fed child is a happy child - and happy kids make for better photos. Try to schedule your session around nap times, meal times and any other regular daily routines.
If you're planning an evening session - feed your child before hand! Rather than having them wait to eat until after the session, let them get a full tummy, and instead treat them to desert afterward. With that, if you know your session will be close to bedtime, try to squeeze a nap or rest time in - if you can! Even small adjustments can make a big difference in how cooperative and relaxed your kids feel during the session.
Another huge thing that affects kids attitudes is their clothing. Clothing that's comfortable and familiar helps kids move naturally and stay happy. Avoid stiff, itchy or overly fussy outfits. Some tips:
- Soft layers and textured fabrics photograph beautifully.
- Shoes that allow running and playing are ideal
- Let kids wear something that feels like them - comfort shows in the photos
- Bring a back up outfit if you want variety or in case of spills
Lastly, if your little one has a comfort item, and wants to bring it into the session - let them! Even though it might not look aesthetic, it's real, and that's what you're going to want when you look back one day.
Have FUN!
So often, parents want their kids to look at the camera and say cheese. But beyond one to two poses like that, it's not only unrealistic, but unnecessary to have your little one maintain a fake smile for 30 minutes to an hour. Instead, have fun! Kids have short attention spans, so keeping the session playful is key. The sooner your follow your little one's lead, the better. You know them far better than a photographer does, so you know what their favorite activities, songs, and things to do are.
- Incorporate little games, dancing or tickles
- Take short breaks if kids start losing focus
- Allow them to explore and move - candid moments often become your favorite shots
- If your little one has a favorite song - play it in the background!
Listen - in day to day life, I get it... I don't bribe my kids either. However, when you're investing in memories, it might be a good idea to encourage them with snacks, or a reward afterward. Having water, snacks, or a small toy nearby can make a big difference. And if we're being honest, they aren't bribes - they're tools to keep your kids happy, comfortable and relaxed in between shots.
Keep Expectations Realistic
Not every child will look at the camera at the same time, and not every smile will be perfect - and that's okay. The best thing my dad every told me was we have children living in adult world. They're expected to sit, listen, and follow directions and usually their attention span says "nope!" So just remember, they're kids! They're trying their best. Also, if we're being honest here - the best images capture connection, personality and love, not staged perfection.
Trust Your Photographer
When looking for photos, always be sure to find a photographer you trust and let them lead the way. Although you are an expert on your child - your responsibility is to simply show up and have fun, your photographer should have tools in their toolbelt to keep your little one engaged. I've seen it happen so many times - parent's say "say cheese!" their little one doesn't, so they repeat it over and over again and point at the camera. I'm sure you can guess what happens next - your little one smiles at the camera, and instead of you posing along side them, you're mid talk with your hand in the air.
As a photographer, I guide families through prompts, poses and playful moments ot help kids relax naturally. I sing, dance, play videos on my phone, and keep your little one moving if staying still is too difficult. You don't need to stress about posing perfectly - my job is to make the session feel effortless and fun for everyone.
